Purpose

The Disciplinary Wives Club is exclusively about “good old fashioned” spanking in the context of a couples relationship. We are an adult site designed for the promotion of spanking, by wives and other committed feminine partners, of their needy “Bad Boys”.

This is not a sexually explicit site and we do not advocate or advertise activities of a sexual or sadomastochistic nature. You will however, find among our recommended Links, sites and people who do include S&M, B&D etc. Many of these people are good friends of ours and we support their play styles completely. It is simply our preference, for this site, to remain focused on the spanking part of relationships.

We are a 100% reality-based site. We are here to support real couples who condsider spanking important to their relationships. We aim to validate our mutual lifestyles, assist couples who are beginning this activity in their relationship, and help make real-life connections between couples of this nature.

A relationship where the woman of the house applies discipline to the men in her life, whenever and how ever she sees fit, is a happier, healthier and better world. Whether for fun or for a real discipline session, regular spanking of the men in the house is a good practice if you want to maintain a wholesome and loving relationship.

The staff of the DWC is committed above all else to total integrity and honesty. All personal communication with Aunt Kay is treated as totally confidential unless it has been submitted specifically for distribution. If you share an interesting anecdote with me I will ask you if I may discuss it.

I am always willing to “sanitize” anecdotes for privacy, if that is your preference. No information about you will be released to any other party or organization under any circumstances. We have had the opportunity to play in real life with some high profile people in the community and our privacy fanaticism is a comfort to them.

35 comments

  1. Aunt Kay, I’m a divorced male who believes in the superiority of women and craves discipline. I would love to meet a female disciplinarian with the goal of marriage if we were compatible. Does your site offer any such opportunities? Thank You. roger

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  2. The wives are, in effect, often assuming a maternal disciplinary role, as well they should. A lot of men still have that naughty boy hidden within and it his her job to reach it and treat him accordingly. This applies to both fun and disciplinary spankings and role-playing. More than one lady insists on being addressed as “Mommy” when she has her naughty boy over her knee, which is appropriate.
    A minor point: I don’t discount the application of a firm feminine hand as both discipline and fun, it can be surprisingly effective, depending on her skill.
    I’m glad to see this club has reopened here, as I hated to see the old site shut down.

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  3. I’m about to introduce my wife to the DWC philosophy, and in particular, the spanking part of discipline. She might eventually go for it, but she might be a little hesitant in the beginning. Is there a way to introduce that to her and make her feel that it’s the right thing to do and to feel good about giving it?

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    1. Let her know that you have a psychological need to receive discipline, and she is the only one who can provide it. My wife was hesitant at first, but now she is right into it

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    2. I think it is extremely important that once you introduce her to this life style, you let her take the wheel. If you constantly attempt to direct her in what you want, criticize her techniques or act pushy with your desires… ie top from the bottom, she will be very turned off. I have seen this happen a number of times in the FemDom community I belong to. Once you give up the reins, they are hers to control. The best thing you can do is offer her resources if she shows an interest. (Like this web site, or some of the FLR groups on Fetlife)

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  4. Love this site hard to find a site about this that is not all fictional porn. The wife is new to this but she found out quickly that she is good at keeping me in line. Any chat rooms around that talk about Dd ? We are new to this and have been married close to 20 years.

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  5. I am from southern India and have been married for about 6 months. My wife is very conservative and is accustomed to the culture where men are superior. She cannot even get angry at me whn I am in the wrong. I know I deserve being disciplined and have told her but she thinks I am weird. What to do?

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  6. I haven’t seen anything about what it is to be subject to a truly domiinant woman, one who doesn’t resort to long , ridiculous demands, such as , “get over my knee, or “get over here”, or
    “get those pants off!”, or stuff like that. When the situation calls for it, she would come over quickly, slap your face, take you by the ear, quickly and roughly walk you over to the nearest chair, rip off your pants and beat your bare behind with the first spanking implement she could find, until you are crying real, copious tears, until she is satisfied. That is the way I have always
    been spanked, by my mother, and my wife .No canned speeches or requests. They did it all from the very beginning, and never without a good reason, and it left me with a real respect for her desires. It is not a GAME!

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  7. My wife instituted some very clear and not unreasonable rules as to what kind of behavior would constitute a disciplinary spanking. Recently I made some off color remarks when visiting her sister. Over the years all of the spankings have been administered at home in private. This time she asked her sister to excuse us while she ” adjusted my attitude”. I was really surprised but thought better of arguing for fear of my wife offering more details about what I had coming. She led me to the bathroom where she scolded me as I was just focused on how embarrassing it was to be treated like a kid at someone’s house. Then she began washing her hands and without warning she grabbed my ear, twisted it and as I yepled she stuck the soap in my mouth. She told me to bite down and said if I spit it out I would be really sorry. Then she took me to the bedroom lowered my pants and spanked me with a hair brush she carries in her purse. I tried not to cry out but i did. When we came back to the room where my sister in law was, all she said was “very interesting”

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  8. Hello. I’m new to this. My husband has recently come to me asking me to not only spank him, but become the dominant party in the bedroom. He feels he “controls” enough of our day to day life and wants me to take over our bedroom. I am quite willing and am excited about the possibilitys that lay ahead. I have questions… I’m doing research…. but for now am going with what I feel comfortable with. Last night I
    set clear guide lines for which I expect him to follow to get results. one major question I have right now is the spanking is the punishment for not doing what I ask. I want him to listen, he wants to be spanked, should it be reversed? using the spanking as reward? He wants me to have complete control. Should I ask him how he views it…. Just wondering…..

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    1. Jessica,
      Your husband has opened the door to this lifestyle and you need to go through that door. There is an old saying that you need to grab the bull by the horns. A take charge woman says, I’m going to grab the bull by the balls! YOU NEED TO GRAB THE BULL BY THE BALLS!! You need to grab your husband by the balls and take charge!
      I suggest you read the stories at this site several times and read the section on Tips and Methods several times. You should read my husband’s response, Richard, to the Disciplinary Wives Council. I’m telling you the best way to spank your husband is with him naked and you dressed. You want complete control of the situation and having him naked takes away his power, even if he gets an erection. In fact, I love it when Richard gets an erection. What do I do? I enjoy the view!! I love looking at a naked man with a hard cock! lol Remember that you are in charge and if anyone gets embarrassed it will be your husband. This is even more true if other woman are watching. Why? He has a hard cock in front of other woman and he is under your control, there will be no sex after the spanking, and he has to stand there naked and show all you ladies the Full Monty! Enjoy the view!! lol
      I suggest you grab your husband by the balls and tell him you are taking control of the marriage, period. He will no longer make any decisions and he can only give his opinion when asked and you will be in complete control in the bedroom ( I told Richard years ago that he only needs to remember two things in the bedroom, 1. He needs to get on his back and be ready to be mounted, 2. He needs to get his cock hard and keep it hard as long as he can.)
      Your husband needs to say, “Yes, dear and no dear” on a regular basis. How to get him to do that? You demand it from him and give his naked ass frequent spankings! When you get done spanking him he should have tears running down his face, his ass cheeks red hot and you should have a big smile on your face! Just because you are mad when you start the spanking doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself! Enjoy spanking your husband!

      PS I will tell you a secret about erections. I enjoy seeing a naked man with a hard cock but what is just as enjoyable is taking away his erection. I love it when a naked man is standing in front of me with a hard cock. I love feeling his hard cock against my thigh when he gets in the OTK position. I love feeling his cock go SOFT as I spank his ass! And I love it when I’m done spanking him and he stands up with tears running down his face, putting his hands on his hot buns and his cock is limp like a wet noodle!! I love ruining a man’s erection!!!!!! That is control and power!! And just fun to do! lol

      Sharon

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      1. My wife enjoys that to . Every time she pulls my pants down I am hard . She beats my ass till its gone or we have sex then she beats me. Which hurts like hell. Much rather get it with being hard and she knows it

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    2. Stick with what you are comfortable with but remember it can’t work if he doesn’t really feel it and I’d imagine if he’s interested and on board, you can talk about if he expects more or what. Of course if he gave you full control, i he really pustes it, don’t be afraid to spank him to tears. Most of us want to be spanked like when we were growing up and tears and consistancy are important.

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    3. Jessica,
      He wants a spanking now. My boyfriend used to want them too. But they soon figure out that real punishment spankings hurt like hell. And aren’t so fun. It’s no nonsense. A good paddle, or big wooden hair brush will save your hand. And if he’s not reacting, go for the sweet spot between the butt and the upper thighs. Or the thighs themselves. Repeated blows in the same area really build up the pain. You can also take away some of his sexual turn on to the spanking by having him bend over the side of the bed, instead of going over your knee. I take my boyfriend OTK for either spanking, but my delivery is very different for discipline. Also, punishment spankings don’t require a warm up. Let him know that you are very dissatisfied with his behavior, in a way that he knows you mean it. Lecture, if you want. Or spank away on determined silence. It’s you decision. And it’s all in the way you deliver it that will change his mindset. You can save the fun sexy OTK with a warm up as a reward for obedience .

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    4. Jessica, spanking for reward is good in the sexual aspect of things. Likely though if your husband is asking to be spanked, he’s asking for punishment, as strange as it sounds, he’s not going to like that, while it’s happening. I wasn’t sure when I started spanking my husband, at first I gave him what I thought was enough. Finally though, he got me mad about something and I gave him a real punishment spanking. I mean, I got the strap my mother used on me growing up and gave it to him just like she would have given it to me. I even got him to tears, I wasn’t sure what would come of it and felt bad yet things improved in general after that. Since then yes the spankings he likes may go along with sex, but you can have that without the DD relationship. The DD relationship is different, I laid out rules, things I want him to do, things he does that bother me, and even got input from him on things that he does that bother him he’d like help with and turned out they bothered me as well anyway. After that once though it’s all my rules. For those, he does not like the spankings while they’re happening and they do hurt but it’s very obvious, for some reason, our relationship is stronger, and everything is better because of it. When we started out with it, he told me he wanted to not have control of the spankings at all and that was hard for me to get him, again, I gave him what I thought he wanted at first. He started reacting like it was hurting and I’d stop afraid it was enough. Then after that hard long spanking, I realized, he was serious. He wanted me to take full control, take him past what he actually liked, make it hard for him to sit comfortably for a few days, really punish him. Now I do when I think he needs it, he gets the strap at home, and I carry a hairbrush in my purse in case we’re out and about and he needs a spanking, staying somewhere over night or something where we might get alone time, if we’re at a hotel and I think he needs a spanking or once I found out one of my friends was also in a DD relationship and if we’re at each other’s houses and our husbands need a spanking, we just go to a private room, and take care of it. It works out very well for us and it sounds like it does for others on this site, the punishment spankings aren’t for sexual means, you can have those too but the punishment ones for us are generally totally separate. Amy

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  9. In response to Sharon and her advice on taking charge of a husband:
    Sharon, If Richard is ever kidnapped by gypsies will you marry me?!! ;)

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    1. Do I have a groupie?!?! lol
      We do not have any gypsies in NM but we do have a lot of bad boys. And I’m very good at handling bad boys!
      If you were my husband I would make your ass cheeks hot and your cock hard! If you were my husband I would have your balls on a short leash. I have a modified dog collar that I use on Richard. I get him hard in front of 2-3 girlfriends, lock his cock and balls (by putting both his cock and balls in the collar it makes for a tight fit acting like a cock ring) in his collar and walk him around the house. I call it ‘walking the dog’. After walking him around the house for about 20 minutes, I release him from his collar (of course his cock is still hard) and put him across my lap and spank his ass! I let the girls know when Richard’s cock starts going soft and they laugh and laugh!! When I’m done spanking Richard I have him stand up and show the ladies his limp cock. Another ruined erection!!
      Oooohh, I’m so good! lol

      Roger, is your cock hard? lol

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  10. Husbands must be disciplined. When my man
    returns home from work.He must walk around
    the house in the nude. After dinner (I Made)
    he must clean up the dishes . If he does not
    finish his choirs just the way I want he will
    be spanked.Some days he must walk around
    wearing women’s underpants.Wednesdays
    Saturdays its date night we dress up and go
    out dinner or dance . When we return home
    its his turn to discipline me . We just love
    our roll playing.

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  11. My wife is far more masculine than I and I consider her to be my better in all things moral, intellectual and cultural, so naturally I defer to my owner’s strength and wisdom in those regards and have never been let down or disappointed.Master is faced with the choice of 3 punishment methods from traditional Filipino culture and our own derivations thereof, consisting of beatings with a belt , tsinela ( sandal) or boxing glove(s).I am blessed to be allowed to beg permission to produce the implement(s) of my discipline, from which one or more is chosen, then freely and frankly enumerate my transgression(s) and throw myself on the mercy of my Master, of which none ( deservedly)is forthcoming.Outside of the usual blistered buttocks or occasional slip up into fat lip/ bloody nose/ black eye land ( lovingly and dutifully recorded for our future viewing and reference) there is, more often than not, no overt signs of my amply earned and beloved punishment.I’m such a fortunate pirce of chattel property!

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  12. I firmly believe most men would benefit from the kind of home discipline discussed here. I have spanked my husband for more than 11 years (9 married) and have seen changes in him I still have trouble believing. My husband was raised by a strong mother and men like him seem to need a strong wife or they walk all over them which my husband did try with me and did with several of his girlfriends before we met. I make sure he gets all the firmness he needs and I know he appreciates it (except when he is communicating with my strap, Lol) I strongly suspect my sister in law spanks my brother but can’t get her to admit it and other than her know no other woman who spank their husbands. I know it is common but just don’t know anyone. It would be cool to exchange notes and ideas but reading about it online is good too.
    Audrey

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    1. Audrey,

      It’s good to read you have been spanking your husband even before you got married, wonderful! I too use a strap on my husband as I love whipping ass! lol
      As for your sister in law, maybe you need to give a demonstration. Why don’t you whip your husband’s ass while she watches? Have your husband strip naked, put him in the usual spanking position and give his ass a long hard whipping! There is no better way for one woman to ‘discuss’ with another woman the benefits of spanking a man. I think she will be pleased to watch you control your naked husband while whipping his ass! I suggest when you are done whipping your husband you hand her the strap and tell her it’s her turn. Let her whip his ass as long as she wants! I bet she has a big smile on her face when she gets done! And you will have a well whipped husband! lol Give it a try as you have nothing to loose and a sister to bring into the DWC lifestyle!
      What to do if your husband gets an erection? You and your sister in law should enjoy the view! Don’t get embarrassed as he should be the one getting embarrassed. He is the one showing off his hard cock. A naked man with a hard cock may not be a work of art but it sure is GREAT EYE CANDY!! Enjoy the view!
      You two enjoy yourselves! Remember, a naked man with a hard cock makes great eye candy!! Take some pictures! lol
      Sharon

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  13. I agree with Sharon that women should enjoy themselves. The DWC lifestyle is about pleasure for the ladies and discipline and training for the men.

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  14. Vijay, I know how difficult it is to convert a conservative wife to take charge of your discipline and administer punishments for your wrongdoings. I was just like your wife when I got married two years back. My husband had also suggested that I should be more open to express my dislike and disappointment whenever I found him doing something wrong or disagreeable, but I never did so fearing a conflict. As most Indian girls, I was also told by my parents that my husband is superior and it was my duty to obey him and adjust and accept everything at his house and never cause problems. I also found it weird when my husband said that he deserves to be punished after he had realised that he had yelled at me for no fault of mine and in misunderstanding. However, things changed last year when we visited my parents’ house for a family gathering. I have two older sisters and I am the youngest. Both my sisters came with their husbands and children. By the way, I am 24 now and not yet conceived. My eldest sister Priya is 28 and has one son aged 4. My second sister is Sindhu and is 27 and has one cute daughter of 3 years. All of us had arranged marriages which is very common. Anyways, during the second day when we were in the house, Priya and her husband were arguing about something inside their room and could be heard in the hall. Priya’s voice was louder and her husband’s softer and more patient. My husband and I lowered the TV volume and listened curiously. My mother and Sindhu were in the kitchen while the kids, my father and Sindhu’s husband were out. After a few moments, there was a loud slapping sound which was followed by a second slapping sound. I just thought Priya had it coming and her husband just lashed it out. My husband had slapped me several times and it was always frightening. I felt sorry for Priya and became nervous. I held onto my husband’s hand and remained silent. I then was shocked to hear Priya say that she had given too much liberty to him and went soft on him because it was her parents house and he had wrongly taken advantage of it. She then continued scolding him for a few more moments before saying that he will get a good beating until his skin turned red. I was still shocked and stared blankly at her closed room. My husband shook my shoulder and indicated that my mother and Sindhu were in the hall and were also listening to the happenings inside Priya’s room. Sindhu whispered to my mother that Priya is angry and I am sorry for him. My mother just nodded and they both went back to the kitchen as if nothing happened. I was puzzled and was almost sweating. Later that day, I asked Sindhu what was happening with Priya and her husband, and Sindhu tried to evade the topic at first. But then, she told me that Priya must have slapped her husband as usual and she would be surely punishing him later. I hardly believed Sindhu and had asked her repeatedly whether she was telling the truth and if Priya was crazy and if parents knew and so on. I finally understood that Priya was indeed controlling her husband and was punishing him with corporal punishments. I was in fear of telling this to my husband not sure what he would say about my sister and my family. My mother had some idea about Priya’s but did not care though she was surely a person who abides my father. I still remember that I spent a sleepless night wondering about Priya and how could she slap her husband. The next day, I saw Sindhu and Priya chatting in the garden and I went to join them. I openly asked Priya what happened the previous day and they both looked hesitant. We spent almost two hours talking and I learned that Sindhu and Priya were both controlling their husbands and regularly hit them and kept them in line. I also learned that mother knew about it but did not object though tried to advise against it at first. They said that they saw mother living inferior to father and was unnecessarily slapped or scolded, and they did not want to be in that position in their life. They persuaded me to follow them and I told them that my husband had suggested this indirectly before and they laughed and said that I was a fool not to jump on the opportunity. I was in my parents house for two more days and then we left. I was all the while confused and talked to my sisters over the phone several times for the following month or so. One weekend, Priya and her husband Ragu, and Sindhu and her husband Arun visited our house in Chennai. My husband and I lived separately from his family so it became easier for my transformation. We girls got together in the bedroom while the men settled in the hall. Priya and Sindhu told me, again to my surprise, that both their husbands knew about each other’s submissiveness and treatment at home. I could not believe it at first that Ragu and Arun could be open about it. Then they told me that their husbands are given the task of convincing my husband to let me take charge and that he should obey my commands hence. That evening, my sisters dressed me up like a new bride and decorated the room like it was our first night. I was partly excited but partly nervous. I was told that my husband had consented to let me take charge from that day onwards and I was told to reign the house like a queen. Then, we went to the terrace around 5pm where my husband, whose name I never uttered before, but now only call him by his name Sundhar. Well, Sundhar, Ragu and Arun came upstairs wearing no shirt and only in white dhoti (long piece of cloth wrapped around the waist) which is traditional in south India. I had no clue what was happening and going to happen, my sisters kept me in suspense. Priya signalled for her husband to come forward and he did with a bag in his hand. Priya looked into the bag and gave him back. Suddenly, Ragu knelt on the floor and took out a water bottle from the bag and washing Priya’s feet. I was speechless but Sindhu was smiling. He then put his head on the ground at her feet and put his two hands on her feet as if to take blessings. He appeared to be in tears but I was not sure if it was the water or really tears. Priya smiled and extended her hand forward towards him. He reluctantly took out a thin whip from the bag and slowly handed it to her. She took it with authority. He then slowly said that he was grateful that she has leading the family in a great way and for keeping him a good husband and so on. He then asked her to whip him, of course very reluctantly, with his head looking down. As Priya started whipping him on his buttocks over the Dhoti, I could not accept what I was winessing. Ragu simply said thank you and asked for more until she thought it was sufficient. Priya stopped about 6 or 7 times when Ragu’s words slurred and he was clearly weeping in pain or in embarrassment. I noticed Sundhar was trembling and I myself was trembling too. Priya then handed him back the whip and he then handed Priya a yellow collar. She bent down and fastened it to his neck. “Thank you Madam” he politely said. I remember his words clearly because it was something he said absolutely frightened and humiliated and amidst his tears. She then whispered something to him and he took the bag and walked to the far end and stood alone. Sindhu smiled as Priya walked back closer to us. I was speechless. Sindhu then moved forward and signalled for her husband. The exact procedure was being repeated as if they had rehersed it many times. Priya then softly told me that they have been doing this for more than 4 years now and this ritual is done once a month. Priya also said that she and Sindhu had done this together at least ten times in the past and their husbands now had no problem being in this position in front of the other sister or her husband. She then said that it was slightly different with my presence but they could not object anyway. I just nodded dumb founded still coming to terms with all this. As Arun was washing Sindhu’s feet, Priya told me that this is very powerful ritual to make them realise their total submissiveness especially when it is done in the open with the sun shining. I simply nodded. She told me when Sundhar washed my feet, I should stand firm and not tremble. I listened still speechless. Then Sindhu received the whip and started whipping her husband. He screamed in pain but thanked her and asked her for more if she felt necessary. After about five, he clearly had tears and was shaking on his knees. Sindhu however continued and soon his Dhoti was tearing in the spots where the whip landed. After about twenty or so, he was crying loud and shaken. Sindhu smiled and gave him back the whip. He too said “Thank you Madam” in more frightened tone than Ragu. Sindhu then took a similar yellow collar and attached to his neck. He then put his hands on the ground and took some heavy breaths for a few moments before slowly taking the bag and walking to join Ragu. Sindhu and Priya looked at me with triumphant smiles and could barely comprehend. Priya said clearly “You are the Queen and Sundhar is your slave. You do your part and he will do his”. I still think of this phrase everytime before our mothly rituals and our weekly discipline sessions. I slowly walked forward and said “Come” looking at Sundhar and he did so trembling with his bag. I looked at his face and I felt that he was scared and nervous. He looked down and not at me which made me feel superior and powerful somehow. When he knelt in front of me, I was very nervous and unsure of whether all this was correct. But something insisted that I was not doing something wrong because my two sisters just demonstrated this with their husbands. I heard him sob and I turned and looked at Priya and Sindhu for help. They both chuckled and smiled and signalled me to wait a moment. Sundhar continued to sob. After about a minute or two, Priya instructed Sundhar to read from the paper he had written. Sundhar did not move and still looked at the floor and sobbed. He then slowly streched his hand into the bag and took out a folded paper. I still have that handwritten paper at home framed in our bedroom as constant reminder for him. He eventually read me the writing which I gladly wish to share :-

    Seema Madam,

    I am very thankful that you have accepted to lead our house and me. I promise that I will always obey you and follow all your instructions. I will be grateful if you will make me a good husband and person by keeping me disciplined from today onwards. I submit myself to you and will be at your mercy hereafter. I will be honest, helpful and obedient to you and to anyone you wish. I understand that any of my bad behaviour will be severely punishable and I submit to any punishment you desire. I shall have no say in any matter of our house, family and finance. You shall control all aspects of our life and our children’s lives when they come. I shall abide by all the rules and regulations that you set and shall never question them at anytime. I beg you to accept me as your submissive and become my guardian and teacher. I beg you sincerely. Please accept me and accept the whip as a symbol of acceptance. This whip will be my savior and I beg you to use it on me to keep me in line of obedience. I beg you Madam. Please, accept me.

    Well, I copied that passage from the writing in the frame. I admit it still gives me goosebimps after almost a year has passed now. Anyways, I took the whip he offered and I saw his tears and also a sign of satisfaction in his face when he gave it to me. He then washed my feet and I almost cried in emotion. I quickly wiped the one or two tears that managed to creep out of my eyes. He was sobbing again. He spent almost a minute with his head at my feet and his hands on my toes. I wanted to lift him up but Priya and Sindhu hissed and stopped me from doing so. I waited impatiently. Sundhar then looked at me and asked if I accepted him. I was really shaken and just nodded because I knew if I spoke then my voice would betray my crying emotion. “Please whip me Madam for all the mistakes I have done till today and to start my discipline” he said sobbing looking at me. My hand was trembling with the whip and I was carried away. I think I can never express my state of mind at that moment. It was so emotional beyond words. I vaguely heard my sisters asking me to start and I was thinking of all the times since marriage when he had slapped me and scolded me, and Iraised my hand and landed a sharp whip on his back. I shrieked and his hands rested on the floor under my feet. I then landed the second on his buttocks. I was in a trance and must have whipped him several times before his loud screams brought me back. I had looked at my sisters for instruction and Priya held up three fingers. I gave him three more whips consciously this time. I felt relieved suddenly and sighed. He was crying at my feet and I was strangely satisfied. After a while, he looked up and said “Thank you Madam” but he was not frightened like the other two men. He sound relieved too. But of course, now when this ritual happened recently, he was just as frightened as Ragu and Arun that day. My sisters and their husbands soon left that evening. Priya and Sindhu gave me a lot of advice before leaving though on how to take charge of the bedroom from that night onwards. I definitely relived my wedding night in a different way that night. I was not the one shy and afraid, it was him who was at my mercy. At my wedding night, he made me totally naked and forcefully entered me. I was so shy and embarrassed to be clothless in front of a stranger who I barely knew one day earlier. I tried to tell him that we can wait and know about each other first but he had forced his way. I had bleeded that night but he would just simply wipe it with a wet cloth and then continue. He did climax into me that night but I was not satisfied but was aroused. He had just slept off. It was only sometime later that I learned from my sisters that I should masturbate if I was left unsatisfied after love making. I decided to take revenge at this second visit of the wedding night and I totally undressed him while I was still fully dressed like a bride. I made him lie on the bed face up and tied his hands behind him and his ankles together with ropes. I asked him to keep quiet as I watched his erection grow helplessly. I played with it for a long time and would stop when it was about to climax. I did that a few times before he got annoyed and started asking me to let him climax. I just took out the whip, as my sisters had told me, and lashed at his legs a few times and he had started begging me to stop. I started playing with him again andagain whipped him when he asked. Just like my sisters said, he knew he had to surpress his feelings and accept my control and not complain or whine. It worked. When I had done the cycle about ten times for about three hours, I decided to give him a break and left the room after tying his wrists to the top corners of the bed and his ankles to the bottom corners of the bed. I knew he could not move and please himself. I spent an hour reading the diaries Priya and Sindhu lent me of their House Rules and Discipline Sessions and Punishments and Bedroom Treatments. I went back to the room and played with him some more and made him erect again. I looked at me displeased and I just took the whip and lashed on both his legs. He closed his eyes as I looked at him and I knew I had conquered him for sure. I kept repeating this play every hour or so as I completed reading the diaries by morning. By the time I was done with the diaries, I was so aroused and decided to enjoy my husband for the first time in my way. I went back to the room and undid his binds. He was too tired and rigid to move. His erection had reduced a little but was still visible. I pulled him off the bed, kissed, hugged and enjoyed. I asked him to slowly undress me and he did just that. I lay on the bed and pulled him on top of me and inserted him into me slowly. I had a string of his shoelace on my right hand and gently kept whipping it on his buttocks as he was inside me. I told him that I should climax first and then only he could, and if he climaxed first, then he will have to tak a good whipping and in any case continue until I climaxed. Well, he did climax almost immediately just moments afterwards shooting a very massive load inside me like never before. I gave him a few minutes to breathe while I enjoyed the heat inside me. I then lashed the lace on him and he started ramming me but with considerable pain. I hugged him tightly and enjoyed my first climax by intercourse. That moment was simply unforgettable. I never before had the courage to ask him to make me climax, I was just too shy but I was at that time in control and ordered him, not ask or request.

    That week, I spent time making our basic house rules and a timetable of the discipline sessions. I also prepared a diary for him to record his mistakes and a log of the punishments. Since then, we have spent almost a year and I have taken full charge of the house, finances and definitely the bedroom. I still discuss with my sisters on many things and we have a good laugh of many things. We had a monthly ritual together a few months back and Sundhar was just so much more scared than the other two men.

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  15. I was inspired to share my life experience after seeing Vijay’s post because his wife is from a very similar background as I am.

    I am now in full control of my house and husband but we live a very normal life now after the initial excentric outbursts of my domination on him. Initially, I was punishing him heavily until the thirst subsided. It might have lasted about a month or so. We now have a very normal life and I do most of the housework, laundry, cooking etc. The only work I make him do is cleaning the bathroom every night under my supervision and washing of our under-clothes by hand once a week. He does not do any mistakes knowingly anymore and thereby the punishments are very little. We have the discipline session and punishment session on the weekends and the monthly ritual once a month at our roof terrace. I am very reasonable with him at bed but ensure he can climax only every Sunday night after our weekend session. I take him to a nearby Ayurvedic Hospital once a month before the ritual for a herbal enema, oil massage and steam bath. Before that, I make him shave all his body hair clean so he will feel the nakedness humiliating when he undresses for the enema and massage at the Hospital. In fact, I take this herbal enema, oil massage and steam bath too about a day or two before him but without his knowledge. So, he still thinks that I am in control of him when I take him there and wait outside the treatment room.

    My sisters and I had discussed and concluded that control of the husband’s orgasm ejaculation is most important to keep him under control. So, we had agreed that he would not be allowed to close the bathroom when he uses it and when he showers. I then made him wear a sanitary pad to work with the condition that I will be the one to remove it when he comes back home. When two or three times he came back home and told me that he had to remove it to urinate, I could not argue with him. Then, I asked him to return home for lunch instead of packing lunch for him since the office nearby anyway, and he could use the bathroom with my knowledge during lunch time. I also applied a strong sticky tape around the pad to prevent from tampering with it. One day when he came back home with the tape and pad removed, he said that he had to use the bathroom urgently due to stomach upset. I did not want to buy his story and give him a opening. He never again dared to remove the tape and the pad after the brutal caning he received that night as a immediate punishment which did not wait until the weekend. He was crying profusely when I was done and his welt marks remained for about four days. He further endured more whipping that weekend as further punishment. It was funny though when he rushed back home and begged me to undo the tape and pad to use the bathroom urgently.
    As I said, I am very nice to him now and very reasonable with him. We are absolutely normal in our social gatherings and I actually pretend to be a quiet calm wife who is very obedient to my husband whenever we are out of the house except when with my sisters.

    I don’t restrict him to any clothes on a regular basis but I fasten his collar whenever he is at home and only remove it when he goes out.

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  16. I have been dreaming of a lifestyle like yours Seema, but since I live with my parents-in-law and my sister-in-law, the only privacy we have is inside the bedroom at night. As it is quite a small house, we also need to keep things quiet to avoid any embarrassment. We can’t have any weekly sessions or monthly rituals even if my husband submitted. He is a nice person who never offends me and completely respects my feelings, but I take out my anger on him for any disagreement with his mother or sister. I have never physically hit him in any way but I make him hold his ears in murga position and sometimes make him kneel on the floor as he apologises for his mother’s or sister’s actions. The one thing he cannot stand is made to sleep on the floor instead of in bed with me, and I make him sleep on the floor for many nights sometimes until my anger subsides and I had made up with his mother or sister over whatever disagreements we had. I am surprised you live in India and can live this life, and I envy your good fortune. I wish I had sisters who could help or brother-in-laws who can convince my husband, but I don’t. As you say, it is taboo to be superior than the husband, but interesting how you three sisters accomplished the unusual.

    I am 22 and married for almost one year. I am a housewife and my husband goes to office. I spend most of the day helping my mother-in-law with the housework. As you know, the daughter-in-law is for some reason always does all the work at home like a maid and my sister-in-law who goes to college lives like a princess. When I brought up this complaint to my mother, she just asked me to adjust and obey my mother-in-law and not upset her (the usual in our Indian community). My husband is a mother’s son and would only listen to my complaints but never confront his mother or sister for me. I have been browsing the net and got comfort from sites that female could indeed dominate their husbands and that allowed me to experiment giving my husband the punishments. However, I cannot even imagine physically hitting him in anyway. I would love to hit my mother in law and sister in law which will be nice.

    Can anyone tell me how I could possibly move into a DWC lifestyle in my situation? Seema, I am sure you understand my situation and I will be really thankful if you can suggest me a way out of my hardship and a way into an ideal life?

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  17. Uma, I can understand that mother-in-law and sister-in-law can be very annoying especially in a small house. I think the best is to move out with your husband and have a separated life from your in-laws. I think your father-in-law can support his family and so should not have probelms on the financial side. But if your husband is a “mother’s son” as you say, then you just need to slowly create that friction between your husband and mother-in-law. A good starting point is to refuse doing the housework while you are alone at home with your Mother-in-law and blame her for the misunderstanding later to your husband. It will be difficult for him to pick sides and eventually he will lose patience of being a mediator who cannot satisfy both sides and will choose to move out with you.

    Once you are out with your husband, then you can move into the DWC lifestyle. But in your current situation, if you do anything obvious, then it is easy for anyone to label you as abnormal and send you back to your parents. Just remember that you are living in India which is still a community which is male-dominated for the most part.

    When making him do murga, just try making him to remove all his clothes except his briefs, and you keep a wooden stick in your hand even if you don’t want to use it. This will surely intimidate him more and make that punishment more effective. You can also try to undress him down to his briefs or even clothless completely when he kneels and apologises, which will also be more effective.

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  18. Why did the old site go away? I was such a fan!! I have been a fan of FLRs for well over twenty years. While my ex and I had a spanking contract, he constantly snuck around doing the things I had instructed him not to… And a spanking simply meant he was obsolved of guilt if he got caught. I was so discouraged and thought that discipline relationships just don’t work. However, a divorce several years ago freed me up to find a man who truly benefits from my discipline. We have such a rewarding and fun life together. I sit at the head of the table now. And I pull him across my knee whenever he needs it. Life is good! I am so glad that Aunt Kay and the DWC was there to show me the possibilities all those years ago!!

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  19. I have to weigh in here.

    the first time I was spanked I became so submissive for at least a week. It stays with you. If a woman paddles her man hard, over the knee, and I mean for a long time, taking breaks, and resuming, and he is close to tears, it will have a psychological effect of great proportion.

    It is very easy to have it exactly she she wants it. Spank her way there.

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  20. Thank you Seema, I am following your guidance and hope it works out well. I am very eagar to move out and become like you. Thank you again.

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  21. I have managed to move out with my husband after a big fight with my mother in law. Thank you Seema. I followed your suggestions and my husband had become very obedient to me and listens to everything I say now. It has been one week since we moved and we are just setting up the house now. I thought I should thank you for the idea. I will try to get some regular weekly sessions started with him and make him do some rituals like your husband. Thank you very much again Seema.

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  22. This is relatively new to me. I am trying to do research and gather as much information as possible, so I can truly understand the psychology involved. I started spanking my boy friend, now fiance several months ago. The first time we were intimate, he had hinted at the idea of wanting to be dominated. I slapped him while I was riding him and he asked me not to do that again. The spanking started out almost as a joke. I pulled his pants down and wacked him a few times for throwing a tantrum and having a bad attitude. He admitted to enjoying it and suggested weekly spankings would clear his karma with me.

    It has now progressed to where he is suggesting this will help him work through some of his issues and is no longer a joke. It has never been sexual. It would be fair to mention that I worked in the adult industry as a dancer for a decade. I’ve always been more on the dominant side in that setting. I’ve never been a professional Dom but will be the first to whip a boundary pushing customer into shape. My main exposure has involved a sexual context. In my situation, it is not sexual at all. The double edge sword that I’m facing is that my fiance has made comments such as, “you’re not going to turn into a man beater, are you?” or “you’re not going to be abusive once we’re married?”…I’m not sure if he’s just testing me or is confused with what he really wants.

    I am very grateful for this site and have found a book on Kindle that I intend to read. I wish I had a mentor to help me go over scenarios…The issue isn’t me being dominant or having a problem dominating him. I’ve had 10 years of practice doing verbal humiliation, cock and ball torture, gender reversal, and fucking guys with strap-ons. It’s hard with my partner who I love. My hesitation is to cross boundaries that could cause irreversible damage if he wakes up one day and thinks this isn’t what he really wants. Especially since one of his main reservations to get married is his fear of losing all control of his life. This is an absolute contradiction! You want me to tell you what to do, yet you don’t want someone to tell you what to do? You want to surrender control yet say you don’t want to be with someone controlling?

    There is another activity we do worth mentioning. Sometimes, when he gets really depressed and withdrawn, I will swaddle him with a large blanket. He will pretend to fight but I will squeeze it tighter and rock him in my arms. We started doing this after I mentioned I used to do it to a kitten I had who would bite when I would try to handle him. After a few weeks of doing this, he became docile. My boyfriend asked me to do it to him…We do this every few months.

    He mentioned a few days ago he wants me to tie him up. He said the boy in him needs to teach him a lesson when he acts out of line. It’s not in a sexual context. What am I supposed to do? Spank him the whole time? I am a little confused. Especially since I am a lot better and compartmentalizing things. There is a lot of overlap and gray area. Things are easier for me when they are black and white. Any advise? I read the comments, tips and methods already. Also, is there a specific name for this type of domination to make it easier for me to find more information online. Thanks!!!

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